“Grief must be witnessed,” said Kessler, the grief expert. “We want to know our loved ones’ life and death mattered. We want our family and friends to witness it, our community and we need our country to witness it. And it’s not happening on any level.” -David Kessler (LA Times)
Do you choose to turn away from the suffering and the over 90,000 deaths from coronavirus in this country? The flags are lowered in the US capitol this weekend to honor all those deaths. One of the dead is my younger brother John Barry. I try to tell myself those flags are lowered for him too. I am not able to view his body or have a funeral service because of the pandemic. I was able to see him on skype right before and up to his death. If this is the new normal, I want none of it. I want to have some kind of memorial for my brother in the future when his family can gather safely. I want there to be some kind of permanent memorial for him. I want the world to know he mattered.
Stream of Consciousness Saturday, #SOCS, is hosted by Linda G Hill
I want to go back to the old normal. I know that probably is not possible. Will we be on ‘stay at home’ status for 3 more months? Hopefully, it will be phased out slowly over these next few months. In LA County we are supposed to wear masks when outside if any chance of contact with another human. I have been wearing a mask when I open the door for my grocery delivery. I don’t have to open the door unless I have ordered wine, then I need to show my ID. Most times the delivery person tells me not to worry about it. The delivery people have masks on as well. We can get deliveries from Costco which means TP and just recently, paper towels. Yay!
My brother is recovering from coronavirus. He was lucky to have a milder case. But it is still not back to normal at the Nursing Home and I worry he is not getting enough support. They are moving residents around like musical chairs because their numbers of positive test results are still rising. They are working to separate those residents with positive test results from those who are negative. More staff have tested positive as well. My brother is now out of isolation but not back in his old room and the Wi-fi is not good where he is. The social workers have been trying to help us. One of them visited my brother today. They had only one Skype visit while he was in isolation because of the poor internet connections in the facility. They really have to work on that. There is one iPad and one portable phone for the residents in his section. They have a waiting list for the iPad and I have been told the connection for it is not so great either.
In the old normal I would be able to visit him in person. I would have easier access to talk with him on the phone.
Stream of Consciousness Saturday, #SOCS, is hosted by Linda G Hill. The prompt word is “want.” Make the word “want” the first, second, or third word of your post.
Featured image ‘Water Lily in Bloom’ via National Park Service Kenilworth Aquatic Gardens
We have been on ‘stay at home’ status for how long? Time feels lost in another dimension. I don’t feel like I have been stuck in a cave, because I can go out in my yard or around the neighborhood without fear. And I don’t think our Governor or health officials should cave in on their rules for re-opening our state.
California starts to open up. Now we have to decide when we feel comfortable going back into society. We can now go out for curbside pick up at more businesses, and lower risk workplaces can re-open. Los Angeles County does have the highest number of cases in the state. Closer to home we received an email from one of our local stores telling us one of their employees tested positive for coronavirus. Just in case we get lulled into a sense of false security, it is still out there. Dr. Barbara Ferrer ,the LA County Public Health Director, says ‘expect to see more cases as we open up.’ it is still out there.
To the protestors who do not want to follow any precautions in places that still have outbreaks I say, ” Do you live in a cave? Are you not watching the news about all the people dying, ( and not all are elderly with pre-existing conditions). Have you not seen the Nurses and Doctors and other healthcare workers on the news talking about the hell it is in their communities and hospitals? ”
I can tell you from personal experience that Nursing Homes are still being impacted right now. My brother resides in one and has contracted the virus. He has been holding his own. Communication with him has been difficult. We can talk by the facility portable phone for short periods and he has Skype on his computer but the wi-fi has been spotty. The Nursing Home has started to get a good system going for scheduling communication with family now.
We are advised not to get together with our families for Mother’s Day. We will all celebrate together when this is over.
Today, Governor @GavinNewsom & @CDPHDirector issued CA's Reopening Roadmap Report Card that shows key metrics are on-schedule. 👏
Based on this, we will begin to gradually move into Stage 2: Lower Risk Workplaces starting this Friday, May 8. pic.twitter.com/zbUWacCGuA
— Office of the Governor of California (@CAgovernor) May 4, 2020
For a little help relaxing from Santa Barbara Botanic Garden on You Tube:
Stream of Consciousness Saturday, #SOCS, is hosted by Linda G Hill. The prompt word for today is ‘cave,’ use it as a noun or verb.
Featured image ‘Joshua Tree National Park’ photo by Christopher Michel on Wikimedia.org
‘Apply product all over hands until dry’ and you will be protected from coronavirus. Maybe if you drink it you will be cured according to our President. ***Please don’t drink hand sanitizer or any other chemicals made for disinfecting your hands or surfaces.*** I do not feel like babbling on about how great I am doing during the pandemic and all the great home projects I have going like some people. I hate this pandemic. I hate that careless people allowed it to escape into the world and hurt so many people. Am I supposed to understand that people eat bats or whatever way this has been unleashed on us all. My brother tested positive for coronavirus. F**k coronavirus.
Stream of Consciousness Saturday, #SOCS, is hosted by Linda G Hill. Today’s prompt is “directions.” Find a household cleaner/bottle of shampoo/something in the freezer/anything you can find with instructions on it, then copy down a single direction (just one) on how to use/cook/etc. your chosen thing, and make it the first line or word of your post. Then keep writing whatever comes out.
Featured image, ‘Ocean storm near Cape Lookout’ by Dee Brausch. Oregon Dept. of Transportation on Flickr.com
My younger brother has Multiple Sclerosis and has resided in a Nursing Home for many years because he needs care. His is intelligent and his mind is unaffected. I have been worried that he could be vulnerable to infection but so far no one at his facility had signs of COVID-19 until yesterday. One of the residents was transferred to the hospital and tested positive for Coronavirus. Pretty early in the outbreak here in California his Nursing Home closed to any visitors. I understood and accepted this precaution but I was concerned about my brother feeling more isolated and frightened. I was able to set up Skype between our computers with the help of the Social Worker there. I have been able to talk with him over Skype and we can see each other. Of course I am more worried now for him. I thanked the Charge Nurse today for being there. I received a call later in the day that they were moving him closer to the Nursing station so they could keep him under closer observation. I asked that they help him get signed onto the internet so he could watch programs or listen to music.
I wrote a post for Friday about the possible rationing of ventilators and ICU beds if our hospitals have a surge of patients. Remember that all these patients are individuals of value and probably have families who care about them. They are not just a statistic that fits into an age category or medical diagnosis. They might be someone with a pre-existing condition but that does not mean we can easily write them off and not care.
Stream of Consciousness Saturday, #SOCS, is hosted by Linda G Hill Prompt for today is a word that starts with or contains ‘val.’
What Day Is It Anyway? #WDIIA, is also hosted by Linda G Hill.
Blogging from A to Z April Challenge 2020
Featured image ‘Sunrise’ by angelac72 on Pixabay.com
I have read it is good to keep to a daily routine right now as a way of coping with the stress of this Corona crisis. I have never had a regular daily practice since I retired unless you count drinking coffee every morning or wine with dinner. In between that I was pretty freewheeling. I did have interests like writing and genealogy research that engrossed me but things feel scattered now. There’s reading or watching the news to keep up with the pandemic, making meals, cleaning up dishes and parts of the house, reading a few blogs and emails, writing my blog, ordering supplies and groceries, Skyping with a family member who is in a Nursing home, nothing in particular order. The stress of this crisis makes it difficult to focus on a routine, kind of bouncing from one thing to the next. We are all doing the best we can.
I do find accessing nature either virtually or in my yard and neighborhood calming and healing. We have visited with our grandson at a distance, taking walks outside our house.
Spittle bugs in rosemary bush again
Woolly thyme starting to spread out
Woolly thyme doing great in this section
Cranberry sage blooming more
Bumblebees like the wisteria and the spittlebugs love the rosemary bush.
Stream of Consciousness Saturday, #SOCS, is hosted by Linda G Hill. The prompt word is ‘practice.’
Blogging from A to Z April Challenge 2020
Featured image Beatrix Farrand forsythia at Forsythia Dell Dumbarton Oaks Park Conservancy
I need to reach deep into myself to gather my strength. Part of me wants to turn away, to hide. Is it a defense that automatically turns on to protect my heart from pain? But I feel I must bear witness, to see and hear what others are suffering, to honor their lives. I see you New York, New Jersey, Detroit, New Orleans, Georgia, Washington, my state of California, my country.
We must be in this together.
Stream of Consciousness Saturday, #SOCS, is hosted by Linda G Hill. The prompt word for today is ‘deep.’