“A picture can speak louder than words” or has a greater impact than any spoken or written word. Or “this speaks volumes” which is some hyperbole for the impact of a thing, its ability to express something so completely. I recently finished reading a non-fiction book Picture Bride Stories by Barbara F. Kawakami about Japanese Picture Brides in Hawaii who came to Hawaii from Japan and Okinawa during the 1885-1924 Immigration of Japanese laborers. The author immigrated to Hawaii with her parents from Japan as a baby and lived near the pineapple plantations. In her book she documents her interviews with sixteen women who were picture brides*. There were more that 20,000 of these women. On the publication of this book in 2016 the author was 94 years old. This book recounts the tremendous struggles and hardships these women faced in a place they thought would be paradise. Sometimes the men used younger photos of themselves or a photo of a more handsome friend to obtain their bride. On first meeting their husbands some women wanted to return to Japan, others had no choice but to make the best of it. These women labored long hours in the fields of the sugar and pineapple plantations with their husbands along with raising their children, and yet they were able to gaman, (persevere and endure). In this case the photos of the Picture Brides did not speak louder than their own words faithfully recorded by this author. Their poignant stories are an important part of the history of immigrants to our country.
In modern times many couples meet on internet dating sites. Their images are posted and become part of the selection process. The difference in this process to that of the “picture brides” is that the people go on to meet in person before making a permanent commitment.
Would you like to marry someone based on a picture and move to another country often never seeing your friends or families again?
* A practice of arranged marriage where the picture of the woman was exchanged with a picture of the man between the families. The bride and groom usually never met each other in person before agreeing to the marriage. The women who were married in this way were called “picture brides.”
This post is my contribution to Stream of Consciousness Saturday hosted by Linda G Hill. The prompt for today is “vol.” Featured image of Traditional Japanese Woman and Mountain from Public Domain Pictures.net
Panther, Puma, Cougar, Mountain Lion, P55 is what they named you, beautiful cat. You were fitted with a tracking device and crossed the freeway at night. They want to build you a bridge not too far from where I live so you and other Mountain Lions can cross the freeway safely and so your species can survive here in Southern California.
“Los Angeles is one of only two megacities in the world (the other is Mumbai) that have big cats living within the city limits. In a place more often associated with freeways and traffic, the fact that the city can support such large-ranging animals is a testament to the quality of open space and the habitat connectivity that still remains.”-National Park Service
Stream of Consciousness Saturday is hosted by Linda G Hill. Prompt for today is “pant.” Photo of P55 ( captured to outfit him with a tracking device) by the National Park Service Santa Monica Mountains. California Mountain Lions info. Slideshow photos from National Park Service.
‘All or nothing’, that is a good motto for a perfectionist. If something does not meet the ideal standard it is worth nothing. It is definitely not synonymous with flexible, easy-going, having self-compassion. Like trying to force a square peg into a round hole and I have the bruises to show for it. It is good to be able to recognize that something is not working for you and allow yourself to move on. Not keep trying to get yourself to fit into something that doesn’t suit. It is not being a quitter or failure to acknowledge something isn’t working out for you or you are not working out for it. It would have been better to realize it is not ‘all or nothing’, success or failure, but that there could be something else waiting out there for you.
“Set aside the old traditional notion of female as nurturer and male as leader; set aside, too, the new traditional notion of female as superwoman and male as oppressor. Begin with that most frightening of all things, a clean slate. And then look, every day, at the choices you are making, and when you ask yourself why you are making them, find this answer: Because they are what I want, or wish for. Because they reflect who and what I am.
This is the hard work of life in the world, to acknowledge within yourself the introvert, the clown, the artist, the homebody, the goofball, the thinker. Look inside. That way lies dancing to the melodies spun out by your own heart.”
― Anna Quindlen
Stream of Consciousness Saturday is hosted by Linda G Hill. The prompt for today ‘all or nothing.’ Featured image by Kate Ter Haar on Flickr.
“Beside the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.” ”-Lin Yutang
An interesting quote by someone who was born in the 19th Century and wrote a book called, The Importance of Living. Do you ever feel like there are many things you should be doing? To have To do Lists to accomplish, to be industrious and a person of action, out in the world fighting for a cause, is what we are told is ideal. I have begun to question if that dynamic person is really who I am, ever have been, and even should aspire to be. For one I am naturally a slow starter in the morning. For another I really don’t like rushing around in a whirlwind of activity. Why is there this great admiration of so-called productivity? Why is running around doing things, or the appearance of, held in such high esteem. There is a lot of satisfaction to be had in following your own path and pace, to savor and appreciate life. So I will put off saving the world for now.
Stream of Consciousness Saturday is hosted by Linda G Hill. The prompt for today is “-inter. Featured image of ‘Supergirl’ by Erika Wittlieb on Pixabay.com
Sarah Bernhardt via Wikimedia
Her dress was a fantastical frou frou fantasy, covered with a collection of geegaws, dodads, and whatnots. It could stand up by itself in the closet of her dressing room. It rustled so loudly that it drowned out the voices of the other actors. It was almost like another character in the play. It took all her acting skill to keep the dress from upstaging her. It was so heavy that it was hard for her to even moo….ve.
Stream of Consciousness Saturday is hosted by Linda G Hill. Word prompt for today ” moo” or a word that rhymes with it.
Continuing my research on my backyard flora, I have identified two more trees. They are the biggest trees on our property and against a back wall. I used my App again and couldn’t find a match. I did ask The Horticulturist but you have to wait for 24 hours to get the answer. But I was able to find them online. They are common trees in LA, drought tolerant, evergreen, conifers, and don’t cause problems with their roots. They are called Afrocarpus falcatus or Fern Pines. ( I find they are also referred to as Afrocarpus gracilior). Cal Poly San Luis Obispo says the names are synonymous. They are originally from Africa. Some other names are African Fern Pine and Yellowwood. Robin Rivet a horticulturist in the San Diego Horticultural Society (Oct. 2012, No. 217, pg. 5) called them “near perfect for urban landscapes.” Very reassuring. Thank you, Robin. Can’t get any better than that. Cal Poly states that my Fern Pines can grow 12-36 in./year, up to 50-65 ft. tall, and live more than 150 years. I can just see these two trees being the last things standing on our property.
African Fern Pines in our yard
Another view of trees that shows the leaves
Trees from the front side
African Fern Pine in Pretoria (Africa) by JMK
Fruit of the Fern Pines
Stream of Consciousness Saturday is hosted by Linda G Hill. My featured image is of a ‘Ring-necked dove in an African Fern Pine’ in Maui by Forrest and Kim Starr on Flickr. We get doves in our yard and in our Fern Pine Trees. It is hard to get a photo because the minute we go outside they usually fly off. Ours are Mourning Doves.
Mourning Dove via US Fish and Wildlife Service
We can not control the passage of time and it seems to move so slowly when we are waiting. It seems like the more we want it to go fast, the longer it takes. I am waiting for my grandson to be ready to come home. We think the time is short now and the wait will not be much longer. It is hard to be watching and waiting, but he has to do it in his own time. And he is definitely worth the wait. He is so worth it.
Stream of Consciousness Saturday is hosted by Linda G Hill. The prompt word today is “short.” Featured image of Still Life Bear Reading Book via Pixabay.com