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One Year Anniversary

1 Year Anniversary Achievement

Dear Readers,

I received notification today that this is my One Year Anniversary with WordPress.  I have learned a few things since I started and still have more things to learn. It has been great to meet other bloggers who have stayed my readers.  I really appreciate it! I hope to continue to inspire you all to continue reading my posts and welcome others who may want to join in.  🙂


Deborah Drucker

Notes Tied On The Sagebrush

7277313236_439d933437_o  Anny Ahlers

Making Connections the Introvert Way

We have all heard about how it is important to have social connections, important for our well-being. But making connections can be daunting for someone with an Introvert temperament. There needs to be a good fit. I have felt this in my own life when looking for outside interests. I did not see this issue addressed in any books or articles I had read other than to say how introverts can push themselves out and try to be more extroverted. Until I saw this post by Emily White.

In her post she talks about how she was made to leave an environment that had been ideally suited to her and move back to a big city. This was interesting to me because I have felt as she did about the city environment. I live near Los Angeles which definitely qualifies as a big city. What is daunting about such a big city is that there is so much of it and this can be a bit overwhelming. You have to really focus in and look around to find your niche in such a big place. It is like looking at a big cluttered room and trying to decide what to do first and where to begin. Ms. White gave me some food for thought and showed me that you can succeed in making connections as an introvert even in a big city. She doesn’t say we have to morph into an extrovert or do extroverted activities that involve things that introverts do not like such as making a lot of small talk or participating in groups. Unless the group is involved in a cause we are passionate about.

I really like that she is addressing this and discussing how she found connections that fit her. It is good to see posts like this because it gives support to people who want to make connections but want to feel comfortable doing so and do it in their own way.

Since I have started into a semi-retired stage, I have been looking for activities and projects that are engaging to me. I have done the usual book group at the library and I am doing volunteer and paid tutoring. My blog is something very new for me. I definitely was not into social media and I do think introverts approach social media differently from extroverts. I can get very overloaded with social media and the internet. So I am working at balancing my involvement. Which means limiting the time I spend on WordPress, Facebook and email. There must be time set aside for reflection and quiet pursuits.

Some views of Los Angeles, a very big city, and some parts of it that suit my interests, (not the crowded freeways).

Great Expectations and The Simple Life

I have read two great posts recently about how it is all right and even good to choose a simple life over a life that is publicly recognized and acclaimed as successful. We all hear so much about what it means to be a success, how to set goals, and not give up on our ambitions. If we haven’t fulfilled those goals and ambitions we can feel guilty and let down. Maybe we just didn’t try hard enough.

It was nice to read these posts about how it is possible to think that living a quieter life, without lofty goals, is perfectly fine. That there are people who have found the quiet life very rewarding and satisfying. The first post is by David Brooks, The Small, Happy LifeBrooks had asked readers to submit essays about how they found their purpose in life. He was surprised with some of the responses. He said, I expected most contributors would follow the commencement-speech clichés of our high-achieving culture: dream big; set ambitious goals; try to change the world.  I will quote from one of the responses he received.

Terence J. Tollaksen responded:

“I have always admired those goal-oriented, stubborn, successful, determined individuals; they make things happen, and the world would be lost without them.” But, he explains, he has always had a “small font purpose.”

“I can say it worked for me. I know it sounds so Midwest, but it’s been wonderful. I have a terrific wife, 5 kids, friends from grade school and high school, college, army, friends locally, and sometimes, best of all, horses, dogs, and cats. Finally, I have a small industrial business that I started and have run for 40 years based on what I now identify as principles of ‘Pope Francis capitalism.’ ”

Oh, for more capitalists like Mr. Tollaksen!

The second post I read was Oh What to Be by Kelly Quirino. In it she describes what is was like for her to be an identified “gifted” child in elementary school at 5 years of age. How the high expectations of her teachers and community created so much stress for her. She would vomit every day before school. Her mother finally withdrew her from the gifted program. Kelly grew up to have a quiet life dedicated to her children. She says:

” I’m not a surgeon, a scientist, a CEO, or a Nobel Prize winner. What I want out of life is to live simply, honestly, and humbly. My ambitions are to show my children that they are loved and to make the world around me a little better, a little more beautiful, and a little more peaceful. In my heart, I feel like this is a worthy way to spend my time in this world.”

Kelly says she still feels guilty at times about her life choices. That she did not fulfill society’s expectations for someone with her abilities. Isn’t it time to redefine success or at least broaden the definition? Can’t there be more than one type of success? I agree we need all those goal-oriented people but we would be lost without all the quiet ones. And we have to allow each of us to chose which life fits us best.


Photographic image by Adolf de Meyer of Dolores 

[Sotheby’s catalogue Feb. 2006] This photograph was reproduced in the May 1, 1919, issue of Vogue with the following caption: ‘Eager-eyed from under her bridal veil, she gazes in the fortune-telling crystal, hoping to see her dreams there in the clear yet mystery-filled glass. Fastening the draping veil of rose point lace are jeweled wings of platinum set solidly with diamonds and only Cartier could have devised the flexible setting.’


Clear sighted

Vision seeker

Crystal ball gazer

What do you see?

So long ago

Did your dreams come true?

|Stream of Consciousness|


Cherished Mementos

Some of things I cherish most are the memories I have of my children as they were growing up and the memorabilia from that time I have saved over the years. I have saved some of their art work, letters, cards, and little gifts from them when they were small. I know I have a large box in the garage containing samples of my kids’ art work and school papers. I could not bring myself to throw the stuff out. Many of these mementos from my children are inside my house as well. How can I say which one is most cherished. That seems unfair.

I often come across them when I am going through my dresser drawer, closets or armoire. They evoke memories of my kids at a certain age and feelings of such deep love and the poignancy of times passed and sometimes laughter.

Some of the things might be, a drawing, a hand-made Mother’s Day card, a note from my daughter saying she loves me, a letter from my son away at camp, a box of their baby clothes, the toy elephant I was given by a friend after my son was born that plays “You Are My Sunshine”,  or my daughter’s first Mary Jane shoes.  I can’t pick just one. Maybe this is why I can’t part with them either.

Some dispassionate person will have to decide the fate of these things after I am no longer of this world.

This is post is my contribution to Cherished Blogfest. You can read other great posts and link up to participate yourself.  🙂

SOCS-Butterflies are Free

Butterflies are Free is a film starring Goldie Hawn about a free spirited girl who lived in San Francisco. One day she sees a cute guy peering at her from a neighboring window while she is undressed. She thinks he is a peeping Tom and rushes next door to tell him off and realizes he is blind. I love the setting and era of this movie, (San Francisco in the 60s). Goldie helps the boy to overcome his fears and be independent and he helps her realize she has her own hang ups as well. I think this was Goldie Hawn’s first film and she is adorable.

Monarch butterflies migrate thousands of miles each year and during the Fall to late winter they end up in California. I always love to see butterflies outside. We get a few around my house. On my list is the idea of putting in plants that will attract butterflies, birds and bees.

Even though butterflies can fly thousands of miles, they couldn’t fly as far as the New Horizons space ship. I try to imagine what it is like on Pluto. There wouldn’t be any butterflies. Pluto is so far from the sun that it wouldn’t have daylight. Amazing that a planet so far away is still kept in orbit around the sun. Pluto has 5 moons but no oceans or people to be affected by their forces. If we had 5 moons how would our world be affected?

Pluto has been out there waiting for us to visit. We finally made it. We did a fly by, like a migrating butterfly, but we didn’t drop in yet.

The closest photo we've taken of Pluto.


This post is my contribution to Lindaghill’s Stream of Consciousness Saturday.  🙂

SOCS-Ring-A-Round Memories

This post is my contribution to Stream of Consciousness Saturday for 7/11/15 and the prompt is “ring.”

Ring a-round-a rose from Mother Goose

Ring a-round-a rose from Mother Goose

Ring-a-round the rosie,

A pocket full of posies,

Ashes, Ashes

We all fall down!

Hey diddle, diddle

Hula hoop’s ring twirls a-round my middle

I make it spin a-round and a-round

His High School ring on my finger

The band made to fit

With nail polish painted

Over dental floss wound

A-round and a-round.

My birth home San Francisco has trolley cars

That really do climb all the way

To the moon and the stars and

Each brakeman has a special ring for the bell

While the cable turns a-round, a-round

I took a chance on a young man

and left my Emerald City

Hearts brought together with two golden rings

And arms wrapped around each other

A-round and a-round.

Wedding Rings by State Farm on Flickr

SOCS-Package in the Mail

This post is for Stream of Consciousness Saturday which is hosted by Lindaghill. This is a weekly blogging event and everyone is welcome to join. You can join and meet a nice group of writers. The prompt for today is “is.” Check out Linda’s blog and you can read all the rules.

Isn’t it funny how some things we do now people have done almost the same way in the past? It is like what was old is new again. Or a new twist on an old thing. I am talking about ordering merchandise through the mail. In olden days, when people lived out West, or in a remote or rural area, there were not any large stores nearby where they could buy the latest fashions or other items. So they relied on ordering things by mail through catalogues.

People would get excited when the train or coach arrived because it might be carrying an anticipated purchase from a store in Chicago or back East. I get the same excited feeling nowadays when I have ordered books, DVDs or clothes online. It is fun to get the message in my email that my order has shipped and I can track it. The date of delivery stays in the back of my mind until…I realize the day has arrived. I might check a few times outside my front door to see if it’s there. Or I may be surprised when I see the package sitting by my door on a day I did not expect it. It is fun to open the box or large shipping envelope and finally get to see what I bought.

360px-NMP_1780s_House_Interior_Front_Door via wikipedia

1780s House Front Door via wikipedia

Not so different from what people in other times felt about receiving their order in the mail.

The Wells Fargo Wagon from Music Man via Vegas 1A  on You Tube:

The first to offer merchandise by catalogue in the United States was Aaron Montgomery Ward in 1872.

Amward  Aaron Montgomery Ward via wikipedia

206px-American_Bandstand_Cake_July_4 via wikipedia

The Declaration of Independence July 4, 1776 by Asher Brown Durand

The Declaration of Independence July 4, 1776 by Asher Brown Durand


SOCS-Sum is for Sumatra

This post is part of Stream of Consciousness Saturday hosted by LindaGHill. Head on over to her blog if you would like to participate. The prompt for today is Sum/Some.

Sum is for Sumatra. Sumatra is one of Indonesia’s largest islands. Indonesia has over 130 active volcanos. One is erupting now. Mount Sinabung in North Sumatra. Another Indonesian island, the island of Krakatoa ( Krakatau) was obliterated by a volcanic eruption in 1883. The explosions from that eruption were heard up to 3000 miles away. Sumatran volcanos are part of the Ring of Fire which in a horseshoe shaped ring that hugs the Pacific rim. Mount St. Helens is a volcano in the “ring.”

Image via wikipedia

Image via wikipedia

All this talk about volcanos is making me think of a funny little film “Joe versus the Volcano” (1990) with Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks. You will have to watch it if you are interested because I do not want to create any spoilers. A trivia question for those of you who may have seen the film. What is Waponi Woo?

I think I will enjoy a cup of Java and listen to Johnny Cash while I await your response.


SOCS-The Information is Out There

I first heard ” the information is out there” in a film series based on books by Robert B Parker, the Jesse Stone series. The character who said these words was Luther “Suitcase” Simpson who was a local police detective in a town called Paradise. After he had a brain injury from a gun shot wound, Luther would often come up with these mystical quotes. I love this film series and the cast of actors are just great in it.

This quote reminds me of Synchronicity which is like when information always seems to pop up for me when I have been ruminating about something. I just wrote a post about it yesterday in regards to weight loss called Synchronicity and the BMI.

Another issue that I have been struggling with is how current main stream medicine seems to follow a one-size-fits all mentality which usually involves relying on pharmaceutical treatment of many illnesses and does not consider a holistic approach like stress reduction, body work and meditation to augment the treatment of illness. I have experienced that the whole person is not considered and I am not seen as a unique individual. So up popped another article in my email about this very issue.

So I agree with Luther that when you are looking for the answer in the universe ” the information is out there” and it will be sent to you, sometimes in your email.