Honesty The Best Policy

My older brother never wants to tell me his problems and has often not let me know when he was sick or in the hospital. I would find out at a later date and then still be upset anyway. He was being my big brother, trying to protect me, and is a very kind and loving person. I have been so tied up with our move that I had not spoken with him for several weeks. I was having trouble getting through to him recently and had a feeling something was wrong. I finally spoke with my sister-in-law today. He had been in the hospital last month and now had to go back in again. He did not want to worry me. It would have worried me and does now, but I’m glad I found out so I am able to send my love to him.

Even though we may want to protect our loved ones from bad news, I think they want to know what is going on no matter what.


Stream of Consciousness Saturday, #SOCS, is hosted by Linda G Hill. The prompt for today was a word ending with ‘sty’. Featured image ‘Vase de roses’ by Renoir via wikimedia.org

18 thoughts on “Honesty The Best Policy

  1. Cynthia Diament

    Sorry to hear about your brother’s health challenges. I hope he’ll be home again soon and feeling better and stronger. I also home your finding time to enjoy yourself in your new home. Remember, all work and no play…not a good idea.
    Love, Cynthia

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    1. Deborah Drucker Post author

      We are getting things organized here and have made progress. We like the area. Things are still shut down for social activities but we’re ok with that right now. I hope we get good news soon about my brother. Thank you, Cynthia.

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  2. J-Dub

    I used to do that too. When B fell and was in the ICU I didn’t tell Pony until much later. In the moment there was nothing he could do so I tried to spare him. Ultimately that was worse. Now I tell too much. I’m convinced there’s a happy medium between that which is said or unsaid.

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      1. J-Dub

        I get that too. Sort of related, I was told something lately about an event of 4 years ago. I think to myself, I could have gone my whole life in ignorant bliss. Now that I know, I am gobsmacked. Having a very harding time reconciling what went on, why it went on, while wondering if it could happen again.

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  3. joey

    I feel for you. I wish him improved health so you can scold him 😉 My mother does the same. She’ll only tell me after and say things like “It’s no big deal, but I was…” As you and I know, it is a big deal.

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  4. Laura

    So sorry to hear that your brother is struggling. Knowing when to share family news is challenging — keeping people informed so they can help if you need it versus worrying others unnecessarily or adding the stress of reassuring them. I have trouble with this sometimes too.

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  5. JoAnna

    My parents were like your brother. it was more upsetting when my dad lived alone, refusing to move, in his final years. Still, I can understand both sides. I think if my kids were very busy dealing with a big move or other extra challenge, I would be more likely to withhold information. But I wouldn’t want them to withhold information from me. I guess we try to protect the ones we love, but I hope your brother listens to and heeds your wishes. I hope he gets to come home soon.

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    1. Deborah Drucker Post author

      I think I would like to know what is happening in real time even though I do understand the desire to protect the family and loved ones. I did get the good news that my brother came home again the other day. It was so great to hear his voice. Thank you, JoAnna. ❤

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