How to Find the Meaning in My Life

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I have been thinking a lot lately about my life and how I want to make it more meaningful for me. This is a process of self-discovery as well. Tuning in and turning inward to myself.

For many years it was about the outer world and what was demanded of me, in work, marriage and motherhood. I had to fulfill certain roles, meet expectations, requirements, and others’ needs. Now I find I have more time to think, and to think more about myself. This is a new experience because for so long so much of me was given away. It’s like here I am, still here after everything.

My journey now is tuning into what feels right, in what I believe, where I want to focus my energies, to be aware of what energizes me, and what drains my energy. I want to devote more and more time to what energizes me, what I love. I want to be sure to spend more time on the relationships I really care about as well.

Even if you are in an earlier stage of life, I think it is important to carve out time for your own self discovery and enrichment. What do you think?

15 thoughts on “How to Find the Meaning in My Life”

    1. Deborah Drucker Post author

      Yes, as much as they can. We have so many demands on us when we are younger though or if we have families. I don’t think it is wrong to devote ourselves to others part of the time but have to save something for us too. 🙂

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  2. JoAnne

    I am approaching this phase of my life with eagerness, so reading this post is exciting! I love this sentence: “It’s like here I am, still here after everything.” Still here after giving so much away. What a relief and comfort. Bravo!

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  3. LifestyleswithLia

    Very , very well-said! I think as children, we are taught to play and share time with others. Then as we grow older, it’s harder to disengage sometimes from friends and spend some me-time alone and contemplate our next step… What our true passions and hobbies are that make us happy. Kudos to you for taking the necessary time to meditate and contemplate your own journey. I can read this feeling through your words… Thanks as always for reminding me of what’s important in life!!! You are full of nuggets of wisdom!

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  5. morgaine620

    For me it has always been important to spent time with myself. I find it quite exhausting to be around people sometimes. It might be because I am a little like an empath who collects other peoples emotions. I have been lucky in a way as I have no children of my own so I had lots of possibilities to sort myself out which no matter what was a long journey. Since I have hosted “Love Is In Da Blog” a big change has happened though and I still can’t truly express in what way. I concentrate on things I always wanted to do but somehow never got around to like gardening, knitting. My latest theory is that I used writing as an escape from what I was feeling. Now I can allow myself much more to be in the moment and even live through difficult emotions both my own and other peoples. Unfortunately our time does not allow much of this. We have to carve it out if we feel inclined to. But I believe if all of us would do that this world would be a much, much better place. Great post! Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Deborah Drucker Post author

      Thanks Morgaine 🙂 I know what you mean about absorbing other people’s energy. I am like that as well. Maybe you used writing as an escape or it was something that gave you enjoyment. I think it is important that we do things that give us happiness. I know what you mean too in that it is good to branch out into different interests.

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  6. Audrey Meltzer

    Thank you, Deborah (and others), for your thoughts which are reflective and sensitive, as ever. I can be counted amongst the people who need time alone to re-gather energy and who would be considered more introverted than extroverted. I do think we go through phases and stages, and there’s a developmental process involved. Individuation, as well. As I’ve gotten older, I can observe how I’ve begun to give myself permission to focus on what feels best for me, on what seems to really matter the most to me, on what seems to ‘fit.’ Somehow, I believe — at least, for me — it really has taken those phases and stages, and the experience gained from living, that has provided me with more confidence and brought me to a stronger sense of my own truth.

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    1. Deborah Drucker Post author

      Thanks Audrey. I think it can happen more as well get older that we become more of our true selves and become more aware. It is nice to see that people are learning to listen to that inner voice more now even at younger ages. I think it prevents a lot of suffering when we know ourselves. 🙂

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  7. Audrey Meltzer

    I agree, Deborah – that people are learning to listen to the inner voice more now even at younger ages. This evening, was reading an interview with Jon Kabat-Zinn. He began his Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction programs about 35 years ago, and now — how many years later! — it’s reaching ‘mainstream.’ In the article, he describes how mindfulness is about cultivating a relationship of intimacy with oneself. Maybe this is getting off the subject a little, yet that inner voice (some might call it intuition, others may have another name for it) ultimately is our own unique person speaking. I don’t think we ever fully know ourselves, yet I also agree with you about how listening to ourselves can prevent a lot of suffering.

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