I have found that those in their nonage
look upon me who is slightly more than middle age
as probably
nonagenarian or maybe even centenarian
These persons to whom I provide tutelage
have at times have had the temerity
to imply my antiquity
This causes me to query
Is ageism inborn or instilled by society?
This is my post for Stream of Consciousness Saturday hosted by Linda G Hill. The word for today is “no.”
I guess it’s both. When you’re young, anything over twenty is too abstract to comprehend. As everyone ages, they want to hold on to that sense of immortality and perfectly taut skin; and so youthfulness is valued too much.
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And people who show signs of age are often seen in a negative way. 😦
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That’s true, and I can’t deny that I don’t try to keep some of those signs at bay. I’ve always moisturised and these days my hair colour has regular restoration work!
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I am working on being more accepting of my signs of age. It is difficult to experience ageism but I am working on that as well. 🙂
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I have that ahead of me…. I’m still coming to terms with how young my son’s teachers are!
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Yep. As we get older more and more people look very young 😀
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Oh dear, what are you talking about (and I do not mean the ageism I think that is an inborn problem of our society) ????? I shall take my holiday next week and read up on the words used. Thanks for challenging me 🙂
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Glad to be of service. :))
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Not sure but I hope it can be overcome because I’m not hiding it. I earned thd visible signs of my age.
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I think it takes a lot to disguise the physical signs and then people can look artificial and strange. I am getting more comfortable with my self without alterations. :))
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But didn’t people used to respect their elders more? I blame the media. All those advertisements trying to get us to buy products to make us look younger… They are such an easy target.
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The prejudice against age starts early with many kids. There are a lot of negative stereotypes and negative images of age out there and it has made an impact. 😦
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I think our perception changes as we age and as times change. I can remember thinking my parents’ generation were quite old when in their 40s and 50s but of course when I reached that age I wasn’t old! But there is more pressure now to stay looking younger. I don’t bow to that though.
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It is not only perceiving someone is old, it is attaching a negative connotation to “being old.” The kids that remark on it, see it as something bad. That is the part that bothers me most. I am glad you are not bowing to all the pressure. 🙂
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It is instilled at an early age, one of my first nightmares, one that woke me nightly in tears, was seeing myself an old wrinkled woman. It scared the life out of me. Still haven’t figured out why. I was only 8 then. Still haven’t figures out that dream or why I was so frightened. 🙂
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Yours is a very interesting comment. There are many of these images in fairy tales of old wrinkled women who are something to be feared, like witches. This is a way that negative stereotypes and fears can be instilled.
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I never thought of it being a witch. I don’t recall seeing one, but that may have just skipped my memory.
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You may not have thought of yourself as a witch but there is this association with the old being something to be feared and ugly and witches were often old women. 🙂
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Sorry you missed my post on Ageism in Picture Books last month. I did some research into how we present the elderly in our earliest literature.
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I will have to check out your post. I have been sensitive to some of depictions I have seen in children’s books. I know it has an effect. I read an article recently where the person was complaining about how grandparents are depicted in children’s books and that it is not an accurate image of grandparents today. 🙂
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I did three posts on the issue after stumbling onto a study that made me curious and led to some minor research and cursory conclusions. Here are the links for when you’re not AtoZing. Let me know what you think.
1.http://writegame.blogspot.com/2016/02/teen-bookfest-and-unintentional-ageism.html
2.http://writegame.blogspot.com/2016/02/more-about-ageism-in-pbs-great-meme-hop.html
3.http://writegame.blogspot.com/2016/03/winners-ageism-in-pbs-volume-3.html
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I will check them out. Thanks. 🙂
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Two adages spring to mind:
Youth is wasted on the young.
Haters gonna hate.
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Yes, well I think we all pick up these negative ideas about what being “old” is from early on. I have found these prejudices in myself as well. It is an added stress to cope with at times when the prejudice is directed at me. 🙂
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